It’s the start of a new year filled with so many fun weddings, and this time around I’ve got several sweet friends tying the knot! I love getting to celebrate this season with them, and while there’s a lot of joy to be had, there’s also a lot of immediate stress that a couple takes on once the question is popped. With such a big event, it’s hard to know where to start! There are tons of guides and checklists out there, so I won’t bore you with steps 1-20 of planning a wedding (although finding a date, venue, and planner should be your first goals). Instead, I’ve got just a couple of tips for all those newly engaged couples out there to help you relax and ease into the whole process. Perspective is key!
1. DON’T BE AFRAID TO CELEBRATE
First and foremost, be sure to celebrate this special season! Whether it’s a full-blown engagement party or a small gathering of friends, embrace the cheese and the ooh-ing and ahh-ing over the ring. Use every excuse to pop some bubbly here!
2. MAKE A JOINT WEDDING EMAIL ACCOUNT
This is an easy one – make a joint email account to use for all wedding-related items! Make sure both of you have access and be sure to check it regularly. I’m a folders gal, but this is an even better way to keep all of those wedding communications in one place! And while we’re talking about organizing, using your bookmarks toolbar on your web browser to create folders and bookmarks for potential wedding vendors can be super helpful, too!
3. FIND INSPIRATION
The early stages of wedding planning are the perfect time to Pinterest your heart out! My type-A self would recommend separate boards for dresses, florals, reception, ceremony, bridesmaids, etc, but really any way you slice it, just get in there and find some inspiration! Take note of colors that you’re drawn to and overall themes that feel true to your style. Are you leaning towards modern or rustic? A coastal or urban vibe? This is the time to look at all the pretty things and then decide which ones you want to put into action.
4. DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF
I mention attitudes and expectations in this post about parents & wedding planning, but really, setting yourself up with a positive start can be so important! There’s bound to be a few hiccups along the way, and you can choose to handle them with a deep breath and lots of grace or, well, stress on stress. Let the little things roll off your shoulders and you’ll be so much better for it!
5. RESPECT THE BUDGET
One of the first conversations you’ll want to have is about money – who’s paying and how much. Once those numbers are set, it’s in everyone’s best interest that you stick to them! Some might disagree, but I’d argue that no single wedding vendor or “splurge” item is worth the financial strain. Respect that budget and you’ll save yourself a lot of stress and several headaches!