Wedding planning can be a lot of things – joyful, overwhelming, exciting, expensive. And more often than not (because of our Pinterest perfect culture), brides can find themselves hung up over every little detail. And trust me, I’ve been there! I probably overthought every single part of my wedding day a hundred times over. I’m a type-A control freak, so I have a really hard time turning my brain off. The timeline and centerpieces and cake flavors called to me from my sleep. I fretted and worried and talked everyone’s ear off about the merits of different linen finishes. I had dozens of nightmares leading up to the wedding about all of the ways it could go wrong. The most vivid one had me walking down the aisle to the Black Eyed Peas “She Got it From Her Mama”. I still can’t listen to that song.
And centered in the midst all the obsessing and overthinking – a happy celebration! The heart of the wedding day is that two people are choosing to live and love side by side, for the rest of their lives. It’s so special, and it’s no wonder people want to shout about it from the rooftops! It’s YOUR big day and you absolutely have earned the right to gab endlessly about everything from floral arrangements to seating charts.
But when does simple wedding day talk turn into wedding info overload? Well, everyone has their personal tolerance for how much wedding chatter they can handle – this will have to be a case by case thing. Your bestie might have a higher threshold for discussing color palettes then, say, your brother. Try to be sensitive and take note when a glazed-over look settles in 😉
And while there’s no one-size-fits-all guideline for how much wedding talk is too much, I have one tip that every engaged couple could use – schedule special date nights where there’s no wedding talk allowed! This can be as often as every week, though I recommend a minimum of at least twice a month. Take time out of your schedules to prepare a meal together or go see a movie or go to the park and just catch up on life, sans wedding details. No guest lists, budget talk, or bridesmaid gossip. Just you two, together, reconnecting. At the end of the day and at the end of the aisle, your relationship is what it’s all about.
So there’s my Wedding Wednesday tip for you! It’s as simple (and as challenging!) as that 😉