Joe and I just celebrated our FIFTH anniversary, which I can scarcely believe! There are so many ways we’ve grown and changed over the last five years, and I wouldn’t trade a single second of it. One thing is for certain – I would never have imagined us here five years ago. Becoming a wedding photographer was nowhere on my radar! This incredible photography journey has come with so much learning, which I’m so grateful for. I can say with certainty, though, that I’m glad I got married before I worked in the wedding industry! Sometimes it’s better not to know what you don’t know 😉
When I think back to our big day, I remember all of the tears and joy that went into our celebration. I can also think of a few changes I would make, and some of the decisions I’m glad we went with! So in honor of our fifth anniversary, I’m sharing five do’s and don’ts from our very own wedding day!
5 Do’s and Don’ts from My Wedding Day
- DO consider videography. Hiring a videographer wasn’t on my radar at all for our wedding, and I regret that! Our kids will never be able to sit down and relive those moments, and while we have gorgeous photos from that day, videos capture such a special part of those memories. I recommend that all my friends and brides at least consider videography for their wedding day. And while we’re on the subject, be sure to leave a generous budget for that video service 😉
- DON’T aim for perfection. Listen, I know every bride dreams of the perfect wedding day. And I hate to burst your bubble, but the perfect day doesn’t exist! What does exist is a beautiful day that encapsulates the love shared between a couple – that’s the goal here! Practice some deep breathing techniques and tell yourself that it doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful. On my own wedding day, the linens were the wrong color (and not just a little bit off – they were blue instead of cream!) and you know what? It was still beautiful and literally no one remembers that detail except for me.
- DO hire a coordinator or planner. These are two totally separate roles, but I highly recommend having at least some form of “person” on the big day. By “person” I mean someone who is directing vendors and pulling the entire wedding day together. This makes the day run smoothly and ensures that the bride can truly be a bride on her wedding day, rather than running around and coordinating everything. Our coordinator was the best money we spent on our wedding, hands down.
- DON’T hold on to traditions or rules if it’s not really you! I only attended a handful of weddings before planning my own, so a lot of traditions just didn’t appeal to me. I never understood the hype, and Joe and I wanted to spend more time with our guests. So we nixed those traditions and never looked back. Make sure that your wedding day feels true to you, and throw out any rules that feel too stuffy!
- DO be thoughtful in your music choices. I LOVE our first dance song, and we still enjoy it together today! I also loved that we had a friend play the viola during our ceremony. String instruments will never go out of style, and I always recommend live music whenever possible! We dropped the ball with our reception music, which didn’t feel as tailored to us as it could have been. I definitely would go back and handpick more songs that felt true to our style, which would’ve gotten the party moving more authentically!